Part 1

I’ve spent the last few days turning my thoughts over and over again in my head, trying to decide how to start this story. What pieces of it I should share here with you and what exactly this whole thing will look like. Days later … and I am still pretty much where I started. Nowhere. Still, my story has something every great story seems to have — a beginning, a middle, and an end. The beginning looks like a pretty good place to start.

In the beginning

My story begins on a cool, spring day in the late 1970’s. Two very young, very beautiful people were exchanging their vows just outside a quiet, little cabin near a lake hidden deep in the Carolinas. The azaleas were blooming and their flower girl held, but one large dandelion to match her long yellow dress.

He was tall and lean, with the body of a sailor and sandy brown hair that swooped over one eye. He wore a pale blue button down shirt and creamy bell-bottomed khakis. Very handsome.

She was smaller and petite. A striking beauty with dark Cherokee skin, eyes of green with flakes of gold, and hair as black as night. She wore not a gown, but a simple, white eyelet sundress. As always, she stole the show.

He promised together, they would see the world.

They celebrated the day by sharing an organic meal with friends and family, and a tower of carrot cake covered in daisies for dessert. I was just starting to show beneath that lovely eyelet sundress.

She was determined to make things right for me.

I can’t tell you much more about this day … what I do know, I know from two tinted and slightly waterlogged photos I have been carrying with me for the last 16 years. There are portions of my past, when I know we were all together, but I have spent much of my life blocking out the early years.

I’ve done quite well at it and from what I could tell, I was getting along just fine.

But when I started having children of my own, suddenly my new life began triggering memories of my old one. My past started to catch up with me. Often times, I am taken back by some of the hauntingly real memories that come back to me like shards of glass from a broken mirror. I question it all and most days I wonder about what could have been.

The thing you really need to know about my parents is that they have made poor choices. Good people, who made bad choices. Two beautiful people living life as big as they could and slowly being swallowed up by it. I wonder if either of them even saw it coming.

This big, big life they kept trying to control finally began to control them. In our lives, there has been lots of pain and brokenness. Broken hearts and broken things, broken people who have never really been put back together.


And after that, there were many homes.
Many families; many doubts; many rules; many tears.
Many children — just like me.

<Read more of this story here>


Stacy is seeing the world in a whole new way – through the eyes of her children. She writes about the little things, the big things and all the “stuff” in between at Kids Stuff World.

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    • says

      Thanks for being here when I needed you Rashmie :) Good friends are so hard to find, even more so when they are on the other side of the world. So glad that doesn’t stop us! :)

  1. says

    Absolutely beautifully written, Stacy. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I know that it had to be incredibly hard, but so many people will be able to relate with what you share. And I know that you will inspire others.

  2. says

    Thank you so much for sharing such a private and deeply emotional part of your life with us. You have confirmed how I want to talk to our kids about their mother.

    I want to just reach out and hug, Stacy. You are such a strong person to recognize the beauty in a lot of pain and sadness.

    Your story will help so many others who need to connect with others who share a similar history.

  3. says

    Thank you for sharing. I know how challenging it can be too open up so publicly about our personal pains, but I also know that you understand that doing so can help many others. When my mom finally started sharing her personal story of giving a child up for adoption (almost 40 years later, telling it for the first time), she was amazed out how many others had stories tucked away and were grateful to be able to let go and open up and share and begin to heal.

  4. says

    Wow! I can’t imagine what a hard thing that was to write…life is hard. I’m just so thankful that your life path and mine met – blessed to call you friend. What an amazing woman, mother, wife, friend & daughter you are! Hugs.BIG.Hugs.

  5. says

    Dear Friend, I knew we had something in common far beyond our likes on instagram and pinterest. I can relate to your story on a very personal level. I agree that having children of your own can trigger memories from the past that were put away and buried. I wrote a post about a year ago about my journey. Email me and I’ll send you the link if you want to read it. Thank you so much for sharing. xo


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